Are you bursting with excitement that you are going to be a dad? It is one of the most special experiences in your life. You can’t wait to see your little one and be a ‘dad’. While your wife is going through the pregnancy physically, your experience is no less fascinating as you walk through the different milestones of your baby’s development with your loved one.
Do you wonder how you can bond with your baby even before the birth of your baby? Read on for some ideas on how you can form a connection with your little one during their time in their mother’s tummy.
1. Visualize your baby
It is sometimes difficult to understand how a small being is growing every second. Though mothers can feel it every second as it is happening inside their body, fathers too can feel it by visualizing the baby as it grows. Visualizing your baby strengthens your bond with them too. At a later stage, an ultrasound image helps greatly in visualizing how small and in what form your baby will be at any given point in time. As the baby grows, your heart will beat with excitement with every significant milestone.
2. Talk to your baby
Your baby can hear well after 23 weeks and if you have been talking to him or her regularly, your baby can even recognize your voice. So go ahead and tell your baby what plans you have to be the most amazing father you have ever wanted. Talk about your dreams and share your life plans with your little one. You will never find a more patient or attentive listener. If you talk to the baby regularly, the baby will in addition to recognizing its mother’s voice will also find your voice familiar. You may be surprised to see that your baby kicks around enthusiastically after hearing your voice.
3. Pamper your spouse
No one knows the baby as well as its mother. When the baby is in the uterus, the connection between the mother and child is beyond conscious thoughts. So go ahead and pamper your loved one. Her emotions have a direct effect on your child. Pamper her like there is no tomorrow and make her feel nurtured.
4. Play music
Children can understand the rhythm of the heartbeat of their mother. They are also aware of the sounds outside and can relate to music. So you can play your favorite tracks for your baby at a set time every day and talk to them about it. It will help them associate that music with your voice or presence. You can even try playing the same music after the baby is born to see if it soothes or calms them down.
6. Read to the baby
In addition to talking to the baby, playing music, reading to the baby is a wonderful way for you to bond with your child. Set a time in your routine and read aloud. Rest assured that your baby can hear you and probably is enjoying the tone of your voice, the excitement in your breath and the love in your words. So read the books you loved as a child and have long forgotten. Having a baby is one of the best ways to relive your glorious childhood.
7. Accompany your spouse for prenatal visits
Keep track of the growth of your baby and the different milestones by accompanying your wife for all the prenatal check-ups. The sound of the baby’s heartbeat for the first time, the visual of the baby in the ultrasound are sure to make you tear up. It will also help you prepare for the birth of your baby as you have seen each milestone with your partner at every stage. You can even try talking to the baby during the ultrasound to see if there are any movements when your voice is heard by the baby.
8. Go for exercise and labor support classes
Labor is a huge bonding opportunity for you to be there for your child and your spouse. Be supportive throughout the exercise sessions leading up to the birth. It will help you appreciate the eventful journey that the mother and child take before the baby makes its foray into the world.
9. Feel the kicks
Feeling your baby kicking you for the first time is a very special experience. Sometimes, you can even try to have a conversation with the baby and see if the baby responds by kicking or moving. In the last trimester, babies move a lot and it is amazing to see how active they are. As a dad, it is one of the most amazing experiences you will ever have.
10. Participate in the process of welcoming the baby
There is a lot of planning you need to do in the last trimester as you prepare to welcome the arrival of your little one. Try to participate in all the decisions around the baby’s life as much as you can. It will help you bond with the baby more as you try to anticipate what the little one will need when they enter this world as a new born.
There is no boundary to your imagination when it comes to bonding with your baby. So go ahead and do what your heart wills you to do. Most fathers, along with the realization of the responsibility of becoming a father are quite proactive in bonding with their baby. By taking these baby steps, you can rest assured that your baby when born, in addition to being attached by their mother, will also reserve a piece of his or her precious little heart for dear daddy!